Gay Marriage: An Opinion

This really is a hot topic right now and I can never get my opinion out without someone cutting me off and saying “But, you need to realise…” or “You just don’t understand..” and I’m kind of sick of it. If you ask my opinion on something, then don’t let me finish my thought process you’re basically asking me because you think I’ll agree. So here’s my opinion, on my blog, where I can’t be cut off. 

So in the UK, same-sex couples can have what’s called a ‘civil partnership’. I’m not sure what the logistics are when it comes to the differences between civil partnerships and marriages except when it comes to the church, and whether or not they can be held in churches or whatever. I’m really eloquent tonight, aren’t I? 

The church is at the centre of this debate, of course. Also, my Christianity is being taken it to question because of my opinion and that’s not something I appreciate. You can’t tell me what I’m supposed to believe. Anyway, in the UK it’s the Church of England that are very anti-gay marriage at the minute. They are saying it will ruin the sanctity of marriage. This is an institution by the way created by Henry VIII to allow divorce. So I’m not really sure if they can really play the ‘sanctity of marriage’ card here. 

Now, before everyone gets really mad I do understand the flip side of this argument. And of course ministers and priests and whatever have a right to be anxious or worried about being forced to take ceremonies that they feel is against their beliefs. And to make them feel that way of course is wrong. 

One of my favourite people in the world, Hank Green, said what I want to say way better than I could ever hope to say it, so I’ll just quote him.

“Marriage can be a religious thing. It can also be a secular thing. And guess what? Not everyone in the world is of the same religion. Preventing gay people from getting married is not an expression of religious freedom, it’s a form of religious oppression. Because in the religion of the gay people getting married, presumably their god thinks it’s okay. And you are oppressing them.”

You can throw all the out-of-context scripture at me as you like, because at the end of the day it does not change my opinion. It’s actually exceedingly difficult to make definite statements about the bible when a topic is only mentioned a dozen times, compared to something undeniable like God’s love which is referred to time and time again. I’m not educated in the bible to a degree level, that’s true. But a wise man whom I love and respect dearly once told me that it’s very dangerous to take everything in the bible extremely literally because of how many times it has been translated and changed, and he has a Theology degree. He also has a different opinion on this topic, but I feel that point still stands.

I don’t feel people choose to be gay. I believe that God created everyone exactly how they were supposed to be created. Therefore it does not sit comfortably with me that God would create something he said to be wrong. 

I strayed slightly from my topic there, I apologise. What I’m trying to say is that it is an incredibly delicate issue and it needs to be handled with care. I feel a Christian minister or priest should be able to conduct a same-sex marriage ceremony if he or she feels similarly on the situation as I do, but I also would really hope that any same-sex couple seeking to get married would do some research into finding out who would and would not be willing to perform the ceremony. Because there is a very high risk of ministers and churches being sued for not taking on a same-sex marriage, and that’s just as wrong as not allowing same-sex couples to be married in the first place. And in regards to ‘civil partnerships’ it sounds like a business arrangement, and I wouldn’t want to be in a civil partnership with anyone because it sounds like a very dull boring thing. 

Have I rambled enough on this topic? Probably. I’d love to hear your opinions, however please do be respectful of my own opinion. We can agree to disagree, because that’s the wonderful thing about being human. I respect you for your opinion and I applaud you for being firm in it, even if it differs to my own.