Gay Marriage: An Opinion

This really is a hot topic right now and I can never get my opinion out without someone cutting me off and saying “But, you need to realise…” or “You just don’t understand..” and I’m kind of sick of it. If you ask my opinion on something, then don’t let me finish my thought process you’re basically asking me because you think I’ll agree. So here’s my opinion, on my blog, where I can’t be cut off. 

So in the UK, same-sex couples can have what’s called a ‘civil partnership’. I’m not sure what the logistics are when it comes to the differences between civil partnerships and marriages except when it comes to the church, and whether or not they can be held in churches or whatever. I’m really eloquent tonight, aren’t I? 

The church is at the centre of this debate, of course. Also, my Christianity is being taken it to question because of my opinion and that’s not something I appreciate. You can’t tell me what I’m supposed to believe. Anyway, in the UK it’s the Church of England that are very anti-gay marriage at the minute. They are saying it will ruin the sanctity of marriage. This is an institution by the way created by Henry VIII to allow divorce. So I’m not really sure if they can really play the ‘sanctity of marriage’ card here. 

Now, before everyone gets really mad I do understand the flip side of this argument. And of course ministers and priests and whatever have a right to be anxious or worried about being forced to take ceremonies that they feel is against their beliefs. And to make them feel that way of course is wrong. 

One of my favourite people in the world, Hank Green, said what I want to say way better than I could ever hope to say it, so I’ll just quote him.

“Marriage can be a religious thing. It can also be a secular thing. And guess what? Not everyone in the world is of the same religion. Preventing gay people from getting married is not an expression of religious freedom, it’s a form of religious oppression. Because in the religion of the gay people getting married, presumably their god thinks it’s okay. And you are oppressing them.”

You can throw all the out-of-context scripture at me as you like, because at the end of the day it does not change my opinion. It’s actually exceedingly difficult to make definite statements about the bible when a topic is only mentioned a dozen times, compared to something undeniable like God’s love which is referred to time and time again. I’m not educated in the bible to a degree level, that’s true. But a wise man whom I love and respect dearly once told me that it’s very dangerous to take everything in the bible extremely literally because of how many times it has been translated and changed, and he has a Theology degree. He also has a different opinion on this topic, but I feel that point still stands.

I don’t feel people choose to be gay. I believe that God created everyone exactly how they were supposed to be created. Therefore it does not sit comfortably with me that God would create something he said to be wrong. 

I strayed slightly from my topic there, I apologise. What I’m trying to say is that it is an incredibly delicate issue and it needs to be handled with care. I feel a Christian minister or priest should be able to conduct a same-sex marriage ceremony if he or she feels similarly on the situation as I do, but I also would really hope that any same-sex couple seeking to get married would do some research into finding out who would and would not be willing to perform the ceremony. Because there is a very high risk of ministers and churches being sued for not taking on a same-sex marriage, and that’s just as wrong as not allowing same-sex couples to be married in the first place. And in regards to ‘civil partnerships’ it sounds like a business arrangement, and I wouldn’t want to be in a civil partnership with anyone because it sounds like a very dull boring thing. 

Have I rambled enough on this topic? Probably. I’d love to hear your opinions, however please do be respectful of my own opinion. We can agree to disagree, because that’s the wonderful thing about being human. I respect you for your opinion and I applaud you for being firm in it, even if it differs to my own.


2 thoughts on “Gay Marriage: An Opinion

  1. It’s pretty ridiculous in my opinion that they are trying to pass this bill, that states within it will be illegal to hold same-sex marriages within the Church of England and Church in Wales. What is the point of allowing same-sex marriage, only really changing the religious connotations, but then ‘ban’ it within one or two of those institutes?! They either need to allow ALL religious organisations hold same-sex marriage or not bother changing anything.

  2. Becca,

    I hesitate to make too many comments because there is a difference between your country and mine. I do not know much about the Church of England, nor do I know about the laws that govern your nation or the relationship that is better known as marriage. I will try to limit my comments to what I think is right and wrong. Please feel free to tell me that I am messed up like a left handed, cricket bat.

    I believe that marriage is a civil union between two people. It is an all-encompassing relationship that covers all aspects between two people. The raising of children, buying everything from houses to candy bars splitting the cost along some type of mutually agreed parameter, and living in a location that benefits both parties. Not romantic but efficient. The ideal relationship would include a beneficial physical relationship that is based on love and romance. It is much more enjoyable when it is like that.

    When that relationship dissolves, there is some type of financial agreement between the two people. Usually that agreement ends with one side, providing financial assistance to the other person. When children are involved, a judge intervenes to ensure the children’s needs are adequately met. Once free from this civil union, both parties are free to enter into a new civil union.

    Answer these questions for yourself.

    .- If only a Christian man and woman are allowed to be married, then why would anyone allow a man and woman who are atheists to be married? What about men and women from other faiths?

    .- Why is the love that I have for my wife and different that the love a man has for another man?

    – Why is it okay for a man and woman to live together for seven years and then be considered to have a “common law marriage?” But a woman and woman cannot get the same legal protections?

    – Why is it okay for my wife and I to jointly file taxes but not okay for two men to do the same thing?

    – Why can my wife and I easily adopt a child but two women have many more obstacles to overcome?

    – Why can I pursue the right to happiness with my wife but a woman cannot do the same if she chooses to love another woman.

    – Finally, why does anyone really care about the sex lives of another person? Why do we place so much emphasis on the reproductive organs? Don’t we all have bigger problems? I know I do.

    Thank you for having this discussion. You are a beautiful lady, full of passion, spirit and intelligence. Your future is so bright!

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